Aquareion POV

Spiritual Relationships (Co-Resonance)

One of the spiritual topics my time in the KS World emphasized for me is the phenomenon I call Co-Resonance.

As with too many things, circumstances taught me not so much via wholesomeness, but via contrast. With darkness. Because Co-Resonance was so frequently missing, that its absence became unmistakable, either in relationships I was supposed to go along with, or in relationships I thought I got along with but realized something deep was lacking and I should not have been engaging.

Co-resonance is both the foundation and the overarching alignment of any wholesome, functional, meant-to-be Relationship.

Co-Resonance

Co-Resonance is when both people feel a Resonance or “energy” or “vibe” with each other, and there’s a higher-dimensional bridge between the two people serving as a bilateral “on ramp” to encourage the relationship to connect and come into existence.

Although my experiences (not all positive) in the KS World emphasized this concept of Co-Resonance, in retrospect I realize I’ve always been aware of it, but I did not give it enough attention or credit. I didn’t appreciate its relevance to living a peaceful life, especially as a Hermit.

Looking back over the decade of relationships, the only ones that were variously genuine, reciprocal, sincere, uplifting, enjoyable, and wholesome, had a Co-Resonance innate in the bond. The bond only happened because of the Co-Resonance — because of a Higher Spiritual Alignment which manifested down here on Earth as the relationship.

Me and the other person felt something in each other. Or better said, upon discovering each other, we simply felt something in ourselves. Relationships are funny things. The other person plays a Role in our life … and yet it’s not precisely about the other person at all. The feelings one might feel in the presence of another, are always occurring inside oneself. This principle is important to take stock of to truly understand the subtle mechanics and mysteries of relationships.

On top of that, if there is a Co-Resonance, there will inevitably be certain external encounters and alignments that occur to bring the relationship together, with mutual and reciprocal ease, without any effort. So it’s easy to develop this relationship. “It was just going to happen.” There’s some sort of Resonance or knowingness inviting the people together, and then there’s an ease of meeting, and then upon meeting, there’s a natural exchange of insights and expansion of consciousness together.

This is the way all of my lasting friendships have formed. This Co-Resonance between the both of us was arranged at a higher level. Either our Higher Selves wanted us to know each other as Humans, or there were similar frequencies in us at higher levels that made us simply resonate together down here. I’ve experienced this countless times now.

One time a person approached me but was very hesitant, unsure whether we’d hit it off. I felt the Co-Resonance and opened up with enthusiasm to affirm it. Another time a friend told me he “didn’t deserve me.” So I told him I deserved him, trying to emphasize that relationships line up way beyond Human sentiments and if we’re meant to know each other, there’s a reason. There was a Co-Resonance between us that was worth honoring.

Yet frequently, I was the one who hesitated to honor the Co-Resonance, being very intrepid in approaching the people I knew I resonated with and truly wanted to know. This caused me to miss out on some connections in college and throughout life. Sometimes if there’s fear, pain, beliefs, expectations, or misunderstandings, then no amount of Resonance or Love will make the relationship birth and blossom, because it’s being obstructed and thwarted by artificial things that are overruling the natural energy.

Missing out on a meant-to-be connection can be excruciating. As my Higher Self got me back in line some years ago, I actually had to loop around and reacquaint with one of these missed connections. It should’ve happened years beforehand, but since it didn’t, it still had to happen years later.

Co-Resonance is akin to that concept of “what you desire, desires you.” With higher Co-Resonance, the potential that’s there lines up and is simply due to manifest. Nothing has to be “done,” it’s just going to happen and unfold … as long as the people let it unfold, and don’t cower in worry or anxiety like I used to.

I’m not sure others are always aware of this phenomenon, but I’ve often picked up on it before the relationship ever developed, presumably due to a combination of Cellular Telepathy paired with my Magnetism’s ability to feel out energetics. There was nothing to do except see what happens, and see if the Co-Resonance proves itself with manifestation. Because if it’s real, then it’ll be real for both people, and the connection will occur autonomously without effort. This spiritual Co-Resonance is so far beyond my own will or interest.

There have been many times where I’d meet a great person, but it was clear we just weren’t meant to know each other. Especially as a Hermit (and a ‘Projector’ in Human Design) with a very limited reservoir of Social Energy, I am not meant to know everyone, no matter how great they are. Co-Resonance and Social Energy go hand in hand: if there’s a Co-Resonance, then the enthusiasm for socializing will naturally arise. If there isn’t Co-Resonance, then — at least for an Introvert/Hermit/Projector — there will be no alignment for socializing on my part, and likely not much enthusiasm on their part is.

The funny thing is, if I did try to force or connive anything, it would never work out. There were a handful of relationships I thought I wanted or was “meant to have” but which didn’t manifest, because “what I actually needed” was to heal the parts of me craving those relationships.

Certain hardships throughout life have helped me appreciate how genuine friendships really function at the level of spiritual mechanics — and also got me reflecting into the various levels and types of relationships. Things might look like two people simply meeting and knowing each other, but there’s so more going on.

Whereas genuine, higher, Resonant relationships tend to unfold, the shallow Karmic ones get lost in the entropy of pain patterns looping on repeat, until they fall apart. But with spiritually-functional relationships, there are no loops. There’s only harmony, or the facing of the disharmony. If things aren’t going well, mechanics will force out the unwellness to be addressed. The spirituality is built-into these relationships.

That’s why they co-resonate in the first place: there is spiritual potential that will manifest in service to the enjoyment and/or expansion of consciousness. Either they will flow with ease, or if there is pain to heal, it will come up instead of looping like karma. Healing isn’t always pretty but it always leads to wholeness.

And wholeness is the underlying thread of all relationships. They allow us to either share in the joys of our wholeness, or become more whole in ourselves. If we’re not whole in ourselves, you can bet a relationship is going to show that to us.

Circumstantial Relationships

The simplest type of relationship is those forged by Circumstance.

The person you see at the shop you visit every week. The person who commutes on the same bus. The colleague you take the elevator with. The people you run into, and perhaps keep running into, aligned by Circumstance more than Synchronicity, Alignment, Resonance, or Destiny.

If all goes well, these Circumstances can be very neutral or casually enjoyable, with not much thought made of them. It might just be the goings-on of happenstance. Perhaps there are “no coincidences,” but that doesn’t mean every single meeting has the most profound purpose in the whole universe.

Sometimes one particle just ends up next to another particle, one bit of consciousness next to another bit of consciousness. It’s a big universe but a small world.

Circumstantial Relationships can be courteous, but can also be curt. These are the bane of Introverts. As a Hermit myself, I do not have the energy or interest in opening up in these Circumstances. How’s the weather? Great. Have a good day. Thanks. Goodbye!

Other times, these Circumstantial Relationships aren’t so neutral. They may have little bits of anti-resonance and can be irritating.

Usually this signals some sort of change the irritated person needs to make. Maybe the irritated person really isn’t in the right place, and this is how their hologram is showing them.

Or sometimes, a Circumstance is just genuinely irritating, and it’s an opportunity to speak up for oneself and ask for something different, or perhaps find greater compassion in oneself instead of being irritated. They’re usually not a big deal, but do offer little insights into life.

Circumstantial situations and people, if not pleasant, are opportunities to reflect on refinements in oneself. You can’t force-change people outside of yourself. But you can talk to them and see if something can be worked out. Or you can work through something in yourself until you’ve neutralized it.

Or you can just let it fade into the background of your life, with little moments of interaction but otherwise letting it be Just A Circumstance. Because there are bigger, deeper, more impactful relationships to contend with.

Karmic Relationships

Karmic Relationships come together for only one ‘reason’: to combust the karma that remains as unfinished existential business. These relationships tend to be volatile and explosive, or full of dead-end looping patterns that drive you nuts and drag you down for long periods of time.

In my case, I theorize the main reason I manifested into the KS Swamp was to resolve a load of karma that I couldn’t complete in a prior lifetime. It was an intense, challenging mess, having to get my hands dirty with essentially no elegance, but in the end it was worth it. Because subconsciously I felt enslaved to certain toxic energies and ideologies which were vying to control and manipulate me, which I then woke up to, and then I broke Free from them for good. This was something I wasn’t able to achieve in the prior lifetime where the distortions developed between me and the others, so it had to be done here in this lifetime.

Overall, my life guided me into the KS World to clear Karma as much as develop Kryst. Technically, I think the former has to be cleared out before the latter can really take hold. So much of my inner purity and potential was corrupted behind the pain and fear of ancient trauma and bad interactions with certain people in other lifetimes, and it just had to combust and dissolve.

I wish I could’ve done it all alone, in my Head, Heart, and Soul … but sometimes things are meant to actually occur and exist, so that there is experience and growth. Some people want to skirt around “getting their hands dirty” like this, but that’s known as Spiritual Bypassing.

Karmic Relationships occur because there is still experience which remains unexperienced. In my case, I had to learn to speak up for myself and openly reject things which were covertly controlling me, instead of acquiescing and submitting in silence. The spiritual abuses were occurring out in reality, so the healing couldn’t have been done only within myself.

There were still “things to be done” in reality and this is often part and parcel of karma. The wisdom is to neutralize as much of it as possible within itself, but to then integrate that wisdom and take action in reality as if the karma didn’t exist in the first place. That’s what dissolves the karma: acting like there is no karma. Living true to yourself for once, instead of beholden to some broken interaction looping on repeat.

If I had already been easily able to speak up for myself, then I wouldn’t have gotten into any situations where I was being controlled and suppressed and struggled to speak up for myself. So I took the action of speaking up, and that snapped me out of the spiritual quagmire. Action was the solution.

For better and worse, Karmic Relationships seem to be the going rate for many relationships “out there” in the world or “in the mainstream.”

For example, people who were ideologically coerced by society to “find a spouse and get married” early in their lives often end up in Karmic Relationships. And then these people grow old together, bickering and fighting and getting stuck in the same loops until death does them part. (The sad joke is they think they’re finally free from each other, but will likely end up looping through the same types of karmic situations, in future lives, with other people — all because they didn’t integrate the wisdom and take action in this life.)

Ideologies like “go to school, get married, have kids, work hard, retire” are paradigms which do not hold intrinsic value. For some people, they’ll be totally right and that’s beautiful. But when a “possible potential of how life can work out” is converted into a socio-ideological blanket that’s then coercively employed upon everyone as if they must conform and follow it, it becomes a false paradigm, because it’ll never be right for everyone. Each Being has their own unique path. Ideologies and “the way things should be” are not relevant for many people’s true paths.

Ideology of any sort is intrinsically not congruent with Kryst, for Kryst is intrinsically Sovereign and Free. So, following an ideology/belief at the expense of one’s own authentic path automatically generates karma. Personal wisdom was tossed out the window, and action was taken against oneself.

Krystness was traded for Karma.

Sometimes we can develop a belief all on our own, and take action against our best interests without involving anyone else, and this is the type of karma that can be cleared fairly simply through inner work, because it was an inner problem to begin with.

But so much karma — so much self-harming action — develops with others. And therefore, with others it may loop and explode, until correct action is taken in oneself.

Karmic Relationships are extremely entropic. It couldn’t be any other way, since the karma is developed from the deviation of the proper use of one’s Life Force and what’s right for one’s own consciousness.

These Karmic Relationships are destined to fall apart. And if you don’t let them, they’ll just loop in suffering and suffocate you.

The opportunity is to recognize the recurring pattern — especially when the same singular thing happens with multiple unrelated people. That’s a primary sign you’ve got karma going on, and your hologram is informing you of it. Since the wisdom of it hasn’t been integrated and right action hasn’t been taken, the distortion of Life Force is fragmented and manifesting outside of oneself, as reflections and with others. The goal is to take Radical Responsibility and reflect into the personal cause of this pattern, and heal it and integrate it so that it stops manifesting in loops of entropy which involve other poor souls.

Radical Responsibility does not mean you can force, fix, or change anything outside of yourself, of course.

In my case, I tried excessively to change things and people outside of me, but that was futile. I had to instead change myself, and become responsible for realizing I was in a very wrong place with very wrong people, and just take my exit from a realm I really never should’ve been in. (Simpler said than done. The first thing I actually had to do was stop feeling suppressed with my trauma of being controlled and attacked … then learn to speak up for myself … then accept things as they were. There was a whole existential sequence to work through. Only then Freedom from this karma and trauma was possible.)

In the big picture, Karmic Relationships and dynamics are something to get over with as promptly as possible. This karma is already old and outdated in some regard. If it’s existing as subconscious patterns and loops, it occurred somewhere in the past and was left unresolved. So it’s time to heed it and heal it.

People must beware letting it drag on just because some ideology says it’s right or necessary. “That’s just the way things are.” Nope, that’s not true. Re-aligning to personal authenticity is what’s right and necessary.

Religious ideology is the worst perpetrator of perpetuating karma: telling you how to use your Life Force, and dissing your authenticity if it’s not “spiritually conforming.” Religion has often coerced people to remain together — or remain apart!— with tactics of guilt, shame, ideology, invalidity, inferiority, and other coercions.

These ideologies and their ways steal a person’s authentic calling and resonance away from them, inciting people to sacrifice their own wisdom and to take action that deviates against their own best interests.

Religion is the ultimate karma to clear, heal, reject, and move on from. At the macro level, it’s the karma of deviating from God and True Divine Design. At the micro level, it’s the karma of deviating from how God wants to flow and move through you as an Individual.

Soulmates

Soulmates are Souls whose Incarnations have known each other in other lifetimes. In this lifetime, their new Incarnations may meet up again.

It’s that simple.

And it’s helpful to reflect on how simple and straightforward it is. Because people — or rather certain New Agey ideologies — place tons of emphasis on Soulmates, and often make them out as much more than they are or were ever meant to be.

Due to these influences, everyone thinks they want a Soulmate. I once thought I wanted a Soulmate…

Then some years ago, I met several Soulmates… I had consciously wished for it, and it was manifesting, and it was amusing to get more than one.

These encounters made me question the hype around them, because none of my expectations were met!

There were both male and female Soulmates, both gay and straight. A couple of the relationships were nice and smooth, and some lasted a few years.

Meanwhile others clearly had some “soul history” to work out between us. This seems similar to karma, yet less explosive. More like our Souls had known each other, and now they came into contact again to remind each other of some things, and then we could go about our way. No explosions necessary, no loops on repeat. Once the mutual reminders were complete, then the relationship faded apart calmly and naturally.

Perhaps the most ironic Soulmate experience was where I had a past life as a girl with a brother who died. Lo and behold, I came across the Soul of my brother. There was a felt-sense similarity in us. And the cherry on top is that he was gay too.

So, like, we were so totally Soulmates, right? It was meant to be!!!

No…

We were just meant to remind each other of certain things. Plus he also seems to be a Magnetic Man, so it didn’t matter that we’re both gay; in terms of energy dynamics, our energy mechanics were mutually incompatible and we would never work out together.

Well, so much for Soulmates. I didn’t get dates, sex, a relationship, or marriage out of them, even with the two gay guys. So glad I focused so much on “manifesting my Soulmate” that I got about seven of them, with none of what I wanted.

In retrospect it’s amusing how heavy my desires and expectations were, and how overly successful the manifestation was. I’m glad this phase of my life ended a while ago, allowing me to move on to deeper, more resonant relationships.

Soul Tribe / Soul Friends

Our Soul Tribe consists of like-Souled or like-frequency connections.

Instead of like-mindedness, there’s something similar or resonant at a higher level, at the Soul level. This then trickles down and translates into a natural ease and intrigue at the Incarnate level.

These make for good friendships, work relationships, audiences for sharing creativity, etc. Interests and energies are similar or compatible, and communication tends to flow well.

Many “spiritual business” approaches focus on aligning with one’s Soul Tribe.

Many people’s “good friends” are Soul Friends.

I have found these Soul alignment relationships to be easier than Soulmates (and much easier than Karmic Relationships) because there’s no history to catch up on and move on from in any sense.

Just because two people might be Soulmates in this life, doesn’t even mean they were well-aligned Soul Friends in the past life; and if the past life didn’t happen, maybe they’d have nothing in common now. There might just be shared history, not any like-Soulness. Furthermore, the paths the Souls are taking in this lifetime might be quite different, so knowing each other gain may not be relevant.

Whereas Soulmates have a bit of a “knot” keeping them together until it unravels, Soul Friends align based on objectively resonant energy. So they can come together without burdens or things hanging over them and “just get on” with the relationship. In that way, Soul Friends can be richer than Soulmates because the relationship in this lifetime is founded on current interests and resonance, not simply the happenstance of having once known each other, nor the karma or ideology of “they’re supposed to know each other.”

Soul Tribe and Soul Friends have common interests at the Human level due to common resonance or likeness at higher levels. This makes them enjoyable and easy.

That said, it’s wise to be aware of introducing new problems that may then generate trauma or karma or future Soulmate encounters. Unfortunately I experienced this. Due to my own wounding around having a deep brother bond that I felt was missing, I sometimes projected a sense of brotherhood onto “a simple friend” where that deeper energy didn’t exist. I got too enmeshed with certain Soul Friends and expected too much from them, things which they couldn’t live up to or for which they were never destined to play the Role of in my life.

All levels of relationship can serve as reflections for our pain, yet not all of them will serve as outlets for our healing. Things can get messy. It’s just about picking up the pieces once one becomes self-conscious of the issue, and then working to integrate, heal, and smooth things out. Relationships tend to be pretty good at showing us our pieces!

But we’re all yearning for relationships with people whom we can heal with and who “just get us” and where we can let our guard down.

Soul Family

As far as I understand, Soul Family and Oversoul are the same thing. These are Souls who are ‘born’ from the same ‘higher family.’ There is one Oversoul which ‘gives birth’ to a group of Souls together.

Thus, these fellow Souls are Sibling Souls. The actual Soul Brothers and Soul Sisters.

This is similar to Soul Tribe but at a much deeper and more intrinsic level. The energy doesn’t just resonate with another member, it’s essentially the same. There’s a sameness to members of a Soul Family; or perhaps there is differentness, yet these differences interlock perfectly, forming one big Oversoul, and together the members get along and complement each other.

Soul Family is typically very different from Blood Family. Many people can raise their hand and say that their Human Bloody Family experiences haven’t always been aligned or resonant or great. Sometimes Blood Relationships are extremely circumstantial and lacking resonance, with no Soul familiarity from past lives and no resonance with the current Souls. Sometimes, “family is just a circumstance.”

For fortunate people, Blood Family can come with mutual bonding and shared traits, and certain Families do indeed have very tight-knight bonds of care and respect. That is more how it is with Soul Siblings.

There are simply certain traits and frequencies that can be found throughout the Soul Family that make each family member similar, resonant, and compatible with each other, while being quite different from others outside the Oversoul.

When a person feels like the black sheep in their Human family, it’s because they’re a very different Soul from the other Souls they incarnated into a Human Family with.

Meanwhile, there are other Soul Siblings out there that this person would feel most resonant with, and they probably yearn for these people. There might be Soulmates and Soul Friends they can get along with too, but it’s other members of their own Oversoul which they’ll feel most at home with.

This seems to be the case with me. Deep down, I’ve been longing for my Soul Family more than anyone else. Because we have certain traits, values, and interests intrinsically in common, at the deepest levels of ourselves. These are relationships where I don’t feel the need to explain myself or hide any part of myself, because they already “get it” — even about things many people “out there” might judge about me.

Certain high horse nonsense in “the spiritual community” in particular leaves me with a feeling of being judged, especially concerning cars, luxury, material prosperity, etc — but also simple innate things like Innocence and Creativity.

It’s the greatest irony in the universe that certain authentic, Soul-growing, God-backed expressions of one’s Self may not be accepted in “the spiritual community” because “it’s not spiritual enough.” But with Soul Family, there’s no issue. I wasn’t even born into immense wealth, yet it’s a frequency innate in my consciousness, and I know my Soul Family “just gets it.” This is true Spiritual Family. You just get each other and get along and share some super deep things in common.

For ages I’ve wanted to find these people I’ll “automatically get along with” so I can enjoy life and not have to do all of this icky relationship healing stuff. But since this is my Lifetime of Lifetimes, I’ve had to work through plenty of trauma and karma with the people who bring it up, before I could get to a calmer place where I could just hang out and have a good time.

Crushes

The spirituality of Crushes are an interesting phenomenon.

And I think it’s important to elaborate the spirituality behind them, because they are much more than they seem, and I’ve never seen anyone describe what’s going on here. Understanding the spiritual mechanics would help so many people with such confusing feelings.

Crushes are about the presence of another person activating a wounded, repressed, or dormant quality/trait/energy/part of one’s own consciousness.

But that’s where the truth ends and the tricks begin, especially in a society influenced by Hollywood. If the Hollywood portrayal of Crushes and “romance” has any validity, it’s only partially accurate.

The presence of other people can indeed elicit inspiration and enthusiasm in ourselves, and a newfound sense of wholeness that feels so good. But we were never meant to “complete ourselves” with the person who activates this. Even if there is a romantic destiny between the two people, completion is an internal fair — an Inner Union.

We are meant to complete ourselves.

And what Crushes really do, is help us see where to find the parts of ourselves that are incomplete, dejected, fragmented, repressed, etc. It’s a reflection mechanism, and a very powerful one.

It’s a spiritual process of consciousness mechanics. A holographic mechanic designed to make us see the fullness of ourselves. When the presence of an outer hologram of consciousness elicits the awakening of some deep part of our consciousness inside our hologram, we must not get tricked into looking outside of ourselves, but instead maintain our awareness inside of ourselves and notice the part of us that is coming to life.

It’s coming online for a reason: because it’s valuable; and because it’s ready, if not overdue.

A Crush is about the wholesomeness of another person inspiring us to become more whole in ourselves. And the reason it can get so conflated with “romance” is because there’s often a huge Heart opening — in fact, it’s often the Heart which was repressed and devalued in some way in the first place, which is now opening back up. But this Heart opening doesn’t necessarily have any innate correlation to “the activator” or the other person. It’s just about another face of God reminding one’s own Heart to blossom and not be so closed anymore.

Meanwhile, Hollywood stops short of this awareness and taps out at “you made me feel good, so now I want you to be mine.” But these characters usually aren’t aiming to become whole in themselves! And when this spiritual process is short-circuited into “romance” in real life, it usually does not lead to anything happily ever after.

Crushes seem to be predominantly about healing, not romance. They’re about “loving” in a very sincere and innocent sense — and about Love for oneself more than anything else.

One of my earliest Crushes was in kindergarten and related to a girl (making it both pre-sexual and opposite my orientation), so I got some early hands-on training in the metaphysics of Crushes and how they weren’t what society makes of them. At such a tender age, this girl reminded me of the deep, pure Feminine Nature in myself, which would later mature and make me a Magnetic Man. I saw a likeness of myself in her, and the purpose was to help me love myself more — to be more of myself. (If only I had understood this when I was so young, but these spiritual mechanics were occurring far deeper than my childhood self-awareness could understand. I “missed the message” and would later grow up and develop strong hyper-masculine armor, because I was very wounded and thus resistant to my gentler nature.)

A handful more Crushes would pop up over the years, all of them revealing deeper parts of myself that I needed to become conscious of and whole with, and none of them leading to romance. There were tons of Crushes on boys, both before and after puberty, with gay and straight guys, and the only thing they were about was self-discovery. At times it was mind-bending to experience a Crush on someone I didn’t find physically attractive. Even with the gay guys there often wasn’t any sexual activation, alignment, or compatibility. So Life continued to show me how Crushes were not about sex or romance or Union at all, but something more mysterious.

Yet people out there in the world really build relationships off this phenomenon? These fleeting feelings and existential fluctuations? Maybe it’s different for them.

But for me it would be like making a life out of remaining incomplete with myself — and the high divorce rate in society proves this is what a lot of people have experienced, too. Eventually the surges of sensation and inner awakening fade away, leaving no sum greater than the parts. Instead there tends to be a miserable void, something that’s still lacking. The image didn’t live up to the expectation and inner yearning. When you realize you’re still incomplete in spite marrying the image you thought completed you, divorcing from the image — which didn’t offer completion — ensues. (Or, for some people, this may be the moment of recognizing the need to complete oneself, which can then upgrade the marriage into a legitimate Union. It’s a fork in the road that can go either way — depending on the potentiality of Co-Resonance or lack thereof, of course. Sometimes a person does complete themselves, and that newfound wholeness is what clarifies they’re still not meant to be together with another person.)

“If you’re not really with the person you’re supposed to be with, you’re going to find out fast, probably, because it will kick up all this stuff that is disharmonic between you.” – Speaker 2 regarding Twins

In spite the strong feelings to work through and parts of myself to integrate, I’ve long had the knowing that there was no romantic resonance or destiny with any of these experiences. I knew it was just my hologram and consciousness going through a special awakening, which I had to honor and integrate to get to the next level of my embodiment. Sure, they may have gotten emotional or awkward, until the pieces of self-completion and wholeness came together, but it is what it is. You just have to complete yourself, pick up the pieces, and move on with life as a more integrated person.

A Crush is about the Godness of another person having the power to remind us of some forlorn element of Godness in ourselves. The beauty we witness in another person is a reflection of some lost, dormant, or nascent beauty inside of ourselves.

The trick is: we’re supposed to love the beauty inside ourselves as much as the other person activates it.

We’re supposed to look in the mirror and see what we are, not look into someone else’s eyes and lose ourselves in them.

We’re not supposed to fall for the Hollywood trap of thinking this surge of sensation is a harbinger of some destiny with the other person, when in fact there is no higher Co-Resonance beyond some dormant part of ourselves being activated into personal wholeness.

You’d think The Spiritual Community would know this, but then they go about chasing Twins and making up Twin relationships where there is no genuine higher Twinship Co-Resonance. I witnessed this insanity in the KS Swamp as much as any of the New Age communities. The AMCC Religion in particular is built around False Twinship as a means of “being saved.”

The failure to understand True Wholeness, or the charges of Karma which need de-charged, or the mystical metaphysics of Crushes, all lead to much suffering for people who simply can’t sit still with God and Christos and work to become whole in themselves.

Crushes reveal sacred fragments of our own consciousness, ready to come to life inside of ourselves. The person who activates this is just playing the role of God reminding Godself of Godself.

Unions

Relationships that are meant to come together with True Love or True Romance are something very different from the charges of Karma, the longing for Soulmates, and the activation of Crushes.

True Union and any related romance is not the Hollywood movie of two incomplete people craving each other to generate a false sense of completion, happily ever after. There is no completion in that scenario, and rarely any lasting happiness.

This scenario contains the mistaken perception of “needing” the other person to be whole in oneself. This is precisely the lie Hollywood and other anti-spiritual Romance narratives have brainwashed people with. While some of these tales arise ‘naturally’ out of people’s suffering and what they think they need/want, there is also an anti-spiritual agenda employing these narratives to make people focus on other people as a false solution to their suffering, thereby distracting them away from legitimate spiritual work and inner self-completion which would help them transcend all of these issues.

It’s part of the Divide & Conquer strategy, going after wounded lovers as much as countries in conflict.

Meanwhile, True Love is two whole people joining forces to generate a wholeness bigger than the sums of each other. This Union is “written in the stars” and has an element of destiny to it, without any of the torment of Karmic Relationships and Soulmates. True Love consists of a mutual and reciprocal affair of compassionate (and likely passionate) expression, exchange, and support, all founded on a profound spiritual alignment that goes way beyond Souls knowing each other in some past life.

True Love can endure hardship and make it to the other side stronger, and wholer, and more self-aware. Since both people are whole, both can muster the wherewithal and courage to navigate difficulties, not just in the relationship, but in themselves. It is this capacity for internal navigation which then contributes to the solidity of the external Union.

And if they’re not yet whole enough to deal with the hardships, the hardships will certainly activate them and get them up to speed quite quickly. The only other option is to back out, but from what I’ve heard that leads to an unbearable longing that just makes them get back together and try to do things better. When destiny is at play, there is no choice but to work through things inside oneself to align to that destiny.

True Love remains a bit theoretical for me, so while the prior sentiments make sense to me, perhaps some grains of salt are appropriate. In spite some fleeting relations over the years, I’ve not yet known True Love in this life. I’ve had a long journey of various levels of relationship, because I had so much to work through in myself, and so many people had a Role to play in helping me heal myself back to wholeness — and likely I had a Role to play in those people’s lives too.

But as part of my memory from a Pure World, I do remember True Love and what it’s really like (and how short Hollywood falls in comparison). So I’m both well-aware of what I’m missing, and always knew I would not settle for anything less over here in this Matrix. “Dating” and getting intimate with random Circumstantial, Soulmate, or Soul relationships was never something I wanted. (And I can’t even imagine the “romantic” relationships that are built on the flux of Karma. No thanks.) So my life has done a pretty good job of avoiding getting into anything with anyone.

I’m holding out for what I’ve come to call a Beloved Relationship. Similar to Soul Family, there’s something in us that would “just click” with each other. Our meeting, marriage, and union would be reciprocally vowed at a far higher level before it’ll ever manifest in Density 1. I’ve always sensed this, so why would I want or settle for anything less?

As part of my spiritual practice, I’ve focused on holding the sensation/manifestation of “already being married to the guy I’m meant to marry.” This is more fulfilling and satisfying (and less exhausting) than messing around in random relationships to pass the time or avoid solitude.

Sometimes, a lesser but still-aligned relationship may arise, and those can be a part of our path and provide valuable experience and expansion. I try to listen to and heed any alignment of Co-Resonance that presents itself, because I know there’ll be something worthwhile in it, for me and for the other person. Some form of wholesome experience and personal accretion.

But overall, when there’s no higher Co-Resonance, I’d rather be alone than with someone I’m not meant to be with, and being a Hermit makes this all the easier. I remember what True Union is like, so I simply rest in the state of that feeling, knowing it shall manifest. (My personal priority for a Beloved Relationship is elaborated more in Keylontic Homosexuality.)

Higher Self

The relationship with our Self is our primary relationship. The only person we’ll ever really know is ourselves.

Unfortunately, due to various issues with this Matrix, we barely know ourselves!

Getting acquainted with oneself as Human is a big part of the journey of life, especially during the teenage years. But as one matures spiritually, there is also the need to get acquainted with one’s Higher Self. If we get super wounded, or if we’re not careful and don’t live in congruence with our own path, there is a risk for the Human Self and Higher Self to get out of alignment, leading to a lot of things “not working out” in the Human Life.

That is what I experienced and wrote about in Human Self vs Higher Self.

God

The relationship with God is, of course, the First & Last relationship we have.

The ultimate relationship.

The ultimate romance.

The ultimate love.

The relationship with God was one of the deepest things missing in my life for so many years.

Yet, it was never actually “missing.” More like I had forgotten how to respect it and maintain it, so I lost sight of it over the years and then “wondered where it went.”

But once I rediscovered it, it was clear the relationship with God was always there. That God was always there, waiting for me to return.

I was raised agnostic, and then in my teen years I became an atheist. This was both the wisest and dumbest thing I’ve ever done. Wise because I avoided the Yahweh False God nonsense inherent in Christianity and other religions. Dumb because I became overly intellectual and wanted God to appear a certain way before I’d be convinced of God’s existence. This intellectual stupidity, which befalls many atheists, led me into deeper and deeper mazes of my own Mind, all the while missing out on the fairly simple yet highly meaningful bond that can be had with God deep inside oneself.

When my Awakening commenced in 2012 and I began mingling in spiritual circles, full of New Age Nonsense as they were, something was still always missing. I jumped from thing to thing to thing, never finding what I was looking for deep down.

The worst was when I was working with a “quantum healer” who couldn’t heal anything — and yet, she also gave me the clue that helped me find God again. Ironically she helped me heal my God Wound.

As this “quantum healing” failed to amount to anything, I observed how this person was using her Heart to travel to other people and places and perceive things. Or more like, how she was exploiting her Heart for certain gains. I felt like she was using herself, and that she was stopping short of something deeper. This seemed very disrespectful to the Heart and its deeper potential.

As typical with relationships forged out-of-resonance and with a dash of karma and ignorance, things fell apart and I moved on. But something still nagged at me, about how she “used her Heart.”

I decided I would try to figure out “how to do what she was doing but do it right.” So one day I laid down and submerged my consciousness into my Heart, to see for myself what was there.

Where I felt she stopped short and was using her Heart for her own gain, I felt like I went way past the confines of my own Heart. I went deeper and deeper and deeper. And to my surprise, at the end of that depth … was God.

This majestic, endless, eternal, awesome vastness of Consciousness-Presence.

It was like being at the shore between Creator and Creation, and I That I Am had met Amness That Always Is.

This meeting changed my life. Because it’s what I had been missing at the core.

And yet when I met God again, I realized it was a very old feeling I had in me when I was a child, and which everyone lives-with in Aquareion. It’s natural to always be “plugged in” to God; there is no separation or disconnection. Only in this Matrix and other rogue realms can disconnection or forgottenness occur.

Even though I had it as a child and it meant so much to me, I was not self-aware or conscious of it, so I became distant from it as I “grew up” and got lost in the toils of this realm.

Then I became an atheist, which meant I was all in my Head. And the funny thing is, the Mind cannot travel to God! The Mind is designed to navigate inside Creation, but cannot exit Creation. To go beyond Creation and reconnect with God, we must get out of our heads and into our actual consciousness.

When I met God again, it was with the core of my consciousness. My consciousness met the Consciousness that I was made in the image of.

I even remember the day it happened:

February 14, 2022.

That’s not made up.

Somehow my frustration and curiosity aligned and that was the day I decided to dive into my Heart. Valentine’s Day is the day I met God again.

This is how I “figured out” The God Connection Process.

For me the relationship with God feels like God has my back. My Higher Self has my life, and God has my back.

Roles

All of us people are really just individuations of God’s Eternal Consciousness frolicking to and fro inside Creation.

And aside from Circumstantial Relationships, which are just about the spacetime coordinates we happen to share with someone else, relationships tend to play important Roles in our life.

In fact, when something is confusing or hurtful about a relationship, we can ask: What Role is this relationship playing in my life? Are there any wounds it’s showing me I need to heal? What is it teaching me about myself? What awareness have I gained from this interaction?

Sometimes these Roles will be literal and overt, like friend, parent, caretaker, coworker, teacher.

But other times they’ll be more mysterious, because they have something to do with our subconscious, trauma, and healing, or with a higher level of our expansion.

Such Roles might include: bringing a certain trait into our life that’ll serve us; being by our side while working through a specific phase of pain and healing; reminding us of a part of ourselves which we’d forgotten; et cetera.

Relationships can be such awkward, messy, confusing, enjoyable, hurtful things. Very nonlinear, nonsensical, and unpredictable. Relationships are a unique type of mystery, because it’s God interacting with God as Us, and we can’t even pretend to really know what God is up to, even when it’s our own Self or someone else we think we know.

So I’ve found that becoming curious and conscious of the Role that’s playing out is the only thing that has helped keep me sane with relationships and endure hardships which otherwise seemed so heartless or nonsensical. Especially when things go awry, one must take a step back and look at the Role, and what’s truly going on and what’s available beneath the surface.

If things aren’t working out, then the relationship is not really about what it appears to be. If superficial things are falling apart, there are deeper energetics at play. And when we don’t feel neutral about the situation but instead “feel a lot of things” inside ourselves, then the opportunity — and even necessity — is to reflect within at what energetics are at work, and what our consciousness is supposed to gain awareness of and heal from this.

There is always something to gain. Not in the narcissistic sense of exploiting people, but the sense that Life Doesn’t Die and when something “doesn’t make sense,” that means there’s a “higher sense” to be understood from the situation.

Entropy is about things falling apart into spacedust because there’s no Lifeness to keep it going. But Syntropy is about growing more and more from the less and less that came before — and relationships are the primary way this occurs.

Our consciousness is made in the image of God’s Consciousness.

And the interaction of God’s many consciousnesses, is how consciousness undergoes experience and growth.

Carl Sagan said “We are a way for the Cosmos to know itself.”

But what’s really going on is we are the way for God to know Godself. There is no other way.

Evolution

In spite the nonlinearity of relationships, in writing this article I began with Circumstances and ended with God because that feels like a somewhat linear “Evolution of Relationships.” In some ways, each level is an upgrade of resonance and wholesomeness over the prior — yet at the same time, any combination of these relationships can occur simultaneously in a person’s life.

Ideally, one is always connected to God regardless what levels of relationships are occurring in one’s life.

Yet interestingly, I’ve found that upon reunifying with God, the tendency for certain relationships faded away, because they were built precisely upon my God Wound. Healing the God Wound and cultivating conscious communion with God is an important aspect of the spiritual journey that’s often overlooked for “glamor and bliss.” The New Age is horrendous at bringing people back to God, because it has other priorities. Unfortunately certain realms of the KS World also have other, inferior priorities.

After reuniting with God, my life seems to have reached the realm of meeting my Soul Family, and personally for me, this feels like I’ve “made it” in terms of relationships. I believe this is the level of relationship that I was most accustomed to in Aquareion. This was my Family before Blood ever entered the mix, and these are the people I feel most at-home with. This doesn’t mean I don’t have other levels of relationship in my life (like some great Soul Friends to hang out with), but it does mean I’ve aligned to my own natural level of relationship, which is simply equivalent to my level of consciousness and Station of Identity.

As typical with the Mystery of Relationships, aligning with my Soul Family is less about them and more about me. The only reason I’d align with them, is because I’ve rediscovered, integrated, and settled into some of my most intrinsic traits and qualities — I’ve returned to home within my Self. I’m aligned with my own true nature, instead of false natures born from wounds and conditioning. At a mechanical level, being at-one with my Self makes it more probable to meet other Soul Siblings, as long as as they’re also living out their true nature and not “learning lessons” from their other tiers of relationships.

Soul Friends have been great too. But as a Hermit, I don’t have much Social Energy to share as it is, and they know that about me. (Some of them are Hermits as well, so it all works out.) These relationships will be fulfilling, but less deep and existential. They’re for hanging out and having fun. With Soulmates, who knows if I’ll encounter another one. And as for Karmic Relationships, I’m hoping I’ve polished enough of my consciousness to not manifest any more of them.

But who knows, there could be yet another ancient wound awaiting me, as there have been so many already. As I keep saying, mostly to remind myself, that’s what this lifetime is about for me: addressing all of the unresolved issues from past lifetimes so there’s nothing left undone in the future.

Something I hadn’t appreciated before this article is how fundamental Relationships have been at helping me process so much of my Self.

One of God’s masterful ways, that is.

Resonance or Else

In my early years I had some people-pleasing wounding in me which made me fawn a lot, so I had a bad habit of just going along with whoever was around and not making a fuss … even if there wasn’t alignment or resonance.

This was especially bad when someone was very dissonant for me and not good to hang out with, but I “didn’t want to offend them.” (I didn’t want to speak up for myself … I didn’t want to take actions that would serve me … I didn’t want to respect who I really was and how I should represent myself in my life. Et cetera!)

I used to feel extremely awkward and uncomfortable at declining/avoiding certain connections, or in expressing my own interests and priorities. I felt like I could not express my true interests. I felt like I had to hide my own Self, as if I didn’t even have the right to be my Self in my own life. I overly pleased people, being a chameleon or becoming the Self that would be convenient for them.

But this got me into so much trouble and suffering with mis-alignments and everything that ensues from that. So much needless karma, simply due to the karma of not Living True to myself.

So now, I just own it: who I am, whom I connect with, where there’s resonance, and where there isn’t.

For me, it’s all about the Co-Resonance at this point.

It’s there or it isn’t. And there’s no shame or issue either way.

People are either meant to be knowing each other or meant to be knowing someone else. And if there’s any sense of suffering, confusion, hardship, or overwhelm with that truth, that just shows where the relationship is encouraging us to become more self-aware and whole in ourselves.

God is always about wholeness. Made in God’s image as we are, we are not exempt from this principle of wholeness.

We’re just the ones playing around inside Creation with the illusion of being unwhole … until we develop a Crush on ourselves and have some Self-Romance for ourselves, coming back into Union with ourselves and remembering that our Self is the one whom we get to love the most with the power of God that resides inside of us.